4 Major Life Concerns and Realizations

For the past 4 years I had these 4 major life concerns and realizations:

1. Family Life vs Work Life 

I remember, Zig Ziglar said that people when at work say, 'I ought to be spending more time with my family' then when I am with my family I say, 'I ought to be spending more time working for my family'. Funny but this is true for me, I believe the challenge is staying focus at each moment life's journey.   

2. Being the Eldest vs Being the Youngest

Often times, the responsibility of helping my family first often gets the 'bitter' part of me (haha) Yes, I have to confess it is difficult to share monetary responsibility to my family especially when I am thinking of my future as well. 

But I found out that I am not alone. I can name a number of cousins who are in the same position as well. Also, I have a friend who is the third in the family but carries the burden of thinking for his mother's concerns just because the father is abroad and the eldest brother is not doing his part. Another, I know of someone, who is the youngest in the family whose concern for parents's health and retirement may seen to be like that of being the eldest.

Knwoing this people, reminds me that I am still in the better part after all. But this is not really easy, I am thankful that I am able to find same minded people and being able to learn how they over come these challenges. They are partly a huge factor that  helps me joyfully joggle both my 'Kuya' responsiblies and still being about to save more than enough for myself.

3. Accepting Reality vs Dreaming Big 

This is hard for me, Bo Sanchez and a lot of inspirational leaders had been saying, 'Dream Big, write and set goals' and yet there just times when the waves of reality are just against me. When reality bites, it makes me bend to my knees and just surrender. Yes there are inspiring days that fires me up to do my day's routine. But often, I just have to fake it just to make it all through the day. 

Bottomline, I don't feel like always positive, but when I fake it, it does work and relationship become much better, my feelings change and I feel better. Plus, I believe it is something common to feel bad and just have to fake it as a way of discipline. The iphone founder Steven Jobs said, 'Real artist ship', simply saying the artist is able to deliver the service or product in the rainy season or in the sunny season.

And I thank my parents for being an example. My mother ever since I can remember wakes up early for us and cooks breakfast. She even stays late to wash laundry just so we can hopeful focus on our priorities. My father also wakes really to clean the house. I even think they act as robots just to do this daily routine. hehe. (Opps! I think I am exposing that living like a king at home.. not good.. haha)  

4. Life's a burden vs Living a Fantastic life  

I think it is on being kind to myself than being brutal. I am living a fantastic after all. Yes there are problems. I may just have to tell myself life is made up of problems whose solution is also given. I believe the solution is just around my circle of family, friends and even acquitance and just in my hands reach.  

Your booked for greatness,

Chrislann Lodovice Catuburan